The reason why so many women are dissatisfied with the way their men make love to them is that the man in question doesn’t know what the woman wants in bed. Sad enough, communication barrier exist in most relationships. The ladies, most of the time, cannot tell their men, the exact way they feel. The way they really want the man to make love to them.
A research was done in UK in which over three hundred women were asked what they really want in bed and what they felt their current partner was doing wrong in bed. Based on that research and available statistics, the following points can be summarized to be what the average women wants in bed from her man.
ENOUGH FOREPLAY
This is a Universal complaint. The average man knows very little about female arousal. Once he himself is sexually aroused, he wants to proceed straight to intercourse, he doesn’t realize that it takes a longer time and sustained stimulation to get the woman to the state of arousal that he is already experiencing.
Just about every woman in the world wishes her man would take time to arouse her to full capacity, but that doesn’t just include kissing her mouth and rubbing her. From this day, do your best in a while to appreciate your woman. This doesn’t necessary mean that you have to buy her a special gift, but rather tell her that she is beautiful or that the way she walks turns you on stuff like that. Be a lower in and out of the bedroom. Kiss her passionately from time to time, for no apparent reason. The point being made is that don’t reserve your kissing to only when you want to make love to her. Do it from time to time, and want her feel real wanted. In fact, how romantic you treat your women outside the bedroom, always equals to the kind of result you get from the bedroom.
NOT CLEAN ENOUGH
You might have think that you penis doesn’t need to be cleansed as thoroughly as a vagina because it isn’t fleshly and doesn’t constantly secrete fluid (at least most doesn’t), but all men need to make sure that their genital areas are fresh, clean and good to go before (preferably right before) any loving starts.
Besides your penis, you need to ensure that your hands and fingernails are clean (to avoid given her an infection when you play around with her soft spot), and that you smell real fresh. Cleanliness, it cannot be over emphasized, is very important when it comes to sexual matters of any kind, so get a move on and eliminate that dirt before you rush at her for love making.
In everyday living, we say thank you to show appreciation for what a person has done or still doing, which we like. In the bedroom however, we moan and make all kind of romantic sounds to show “appreciation” to what a partner is doing that feels good to us. This is important to love making and woman to see that their men appreciate her effort to satisfy a man.
Imagine you were doing cunnilingus (oral sex) on a woman-swirling your tongue, using your fingers and doing all the right things yet she doesn’t moan or make a sound and you know she’s enjoying it, you surely will be disappointed.
The same thing too applies to you. You must appreciate what she’s doing. Women just like you, want to know that what they’re doing in bed is pleasing their partner. So, an “oh yeah”, “mmmm”, “right there”, “that’s perfect”, “you’re the best”, or “oh my God”, would be nice every now and then.
And if you’re not the talkative type amid sex, then moan and groan instead she needs feedback, give her what she needs, man!
PREMATURE/RETARDED EJACULATION
Many women are not happy with the duration or time it takes their partner to climax whether we agree or not, climaxing is literally speaking an end to intercourse.
We need to reach that climax at an appropriate time.
Women complain that their men ejaculate too quickly. Just when they are warming themselves into the art, the man explodes and puts in an anti-climax to the whole thing.
Naturally, if you’re young (around 16-19) and just beginning to experience sexual intercourse, you’re bound to come too quickly. But there ought to be a change as you get older and used to the sensations of sex.
The thing to do if you find yourself in this kind of situation is to always spend extra time on foreplay and attempt to bring her to orgasm via oral sex and no finger stimulation before you penetrate her. Or, you can train your penis to last longer by masturbating. Every time you masturbate and feel your self about to reach orgasm, stop stroking your dick until the intense feelings subsides, then start up again. Do this a few times and then let the explosion go. Eventually, you will be able to determine when you are about to reach orgasm with your partner and control yourself al will.
On the flip side, women also complain that it takes “eternity” for their men to reach orgasm or he may not even reach one at all.
Well, it is a question of too much of everything being bad. Sex can really be boring if not impressive to a woman if it is too long. But how is too much, you may ask. I would say more than 45 minutes of continuous thrusting.
Given that some guys may have physical drawbacks that hinder them from ejaculating at an appropriate time, for the most part, men who last really long in bed do so because they masturbate too often and too aggressively.
Think about it, how is a soft wet vagina ever going to provide the same sensations as a hand that is rough, firm and can squeeze your penis? So, you need to return the sensitivity to your penis by letting go masturbation for a reasonable period. That will help you ejaculate with much ease with your partner when you have sex.
Scratching, biting and rubbing like you’re trying to start a fire are all very negative things to do when it comes to stimulating a woman’s vagina. A lot of women complain about their men getting too rough and reckless with their vagina and breasts. Be gentle! This is a must. When you first get to the area, lick very softly and gently. You may need to be a little bit firmer as you progress, but at least, when you’re starting, don’t go about it too rough and hard.
If she wants things harder (because some women likes it so) then you can do what she wants. But no woman wants it hard from the very beginning. She must warm up and get things going first before that rough handling stage.
A research was done in UK in which over three hundred women were asked what they really want in bed and what they felt their current partner was doing wrong in bed. Based on that research and available statistics, the following points can be summarized to be what the average women wants in bed from her man.
ENOUGH FOREPLAY
This is a Universal complaint. The average man knows very little about female arousal. Once he himself is sexually aroused, he wants to proceed straight to intercourse, he doesn’t realize that it takes a longer time and sustained stimulation to get the woman to the state of arousal that he is already experiencing.
Just about every woman in the world wishes her man would take time to arouse her to full capacity, but that doesn’t just include kissing her mouth and rubbing her. From this day, do your best in a while to appreciate your woman. This doesn’t necessary mean that you have to buy her a special gift, but rather tell her that she is beautiful or that the way she walks turns you on stuff like that. Be a lower in and out of the bedroom. Kiss her passionately from time to time, for no apparent reason. The point being made is that don’t reserve your kissing to only when you want to make love to her. Do it from time to time, and want her feel real wanted. In fact, how romantic you treat your women outside the bedroom, always equals to the kind of result you get from the bedroom.
NOT CLEAN ENOUGH
You might have think that you penis doesn’t need to be cleansed as thoroughly as a vagina because it isn’t fleshly and doesn’t constantly secrete fluid (at least most doesn’t), but all men need to make sure that their genital areas are fresh, clean and good to go before (preferably right before) any loving starts.
Besides your penis, you need to ensure that your hands and fingernails are clean (to avoid given her an infection when you play around with her soft spot), and that you smell real fresh. Cleanliness, it cannot be over emphasized, is very important when it comes to sexual matters of any kind, so get a move on and eliminate that dirt before you rush at her for love making.
In everyday living, we say thank you to show appreciation for what a person has done or still doing, which we like. In the bedroom however, we moan and make all kind of romantic sounds to show “appreciation” to what a partner is doing that feels good to us. This is important to love making and woman to see that their men appreciate her effort to satisfy a man.
Imagine you were doing cunnilingus (oral sex) on a woman-swirling your tongue, using your fingers and doing all the right things yet she doesn’t moan or make a sound and you know she’s enjoying it, you surely will be disappointed.
The same thing too applies to you. You must appreciate what she’s doing. Women just like you, want to know that what they’re doing in bed is pleasing their partner. So, an “oh yeah”, “mmmm”, “right there”, “that’s perfect”, “you’re the best”, or “oh my God”, would be nice every now and then.
And if you’re not the talkative type amid sex, then moan and groan instead she needs feedback, give her what she needs, man!
PREMATURE/RETARDED EJACULATION
Many women are not happy with the duration or time it takes their partner to climax whether we agree or not, climaxing is literally speaking an end to intercourse.
We need to reach that climax at an appropriate time.
Women complain that their men ejaculate too quickly. Just when they are warming themselves into the art, the man explodes and puts in an anti-climax to the whole thing.
Naturally, if you’re young (around 16-19) and just beginning to experience sexual intercourse, you’re bound to come too quickly. But there ought to be a change as you get older and used to the sensations of sex.
The thing to do if you find yourself in this kind of situation is to always spend extra time on foreplay and attempt to bring her to orgasm via oral sex and no finger stimulation before you penetrate her. Or, you can train your penis to last longer by masturbating. Every time you masturbate and feel your self about to reach orgasm, stop stroking your dick until the intense feelings subsides, then start up again. Do this a few times and then let the explosion go. Eventually, you will be able to determine when you are about to reach orgasm with your partner and control yourself al will.
On the flip side, women also complain that it takes “eternity” for their men to reach orgasm or he may not even reach one at all.
Well, it is a question of too much of everything being bad. Sex can really be boring if not impressive to a woman if it is too long. But how is too much, you may ask. I would say more than 45 minutes of continuous thrusting.
Given that some guys may have physical drawbacks that hinder them from ejaculating at an appropriate time, for the most part, men who last really long in bed do so because they masturbate too often and too aggressively.
Think about it, how is a soft wet vagina ever going to provide the same sensations as a hand that is rough, firm and can squeeze your penis? So, you need to return the sensitivity to your penis by letting go masturbation for a reasonable period. That will help you ejaculate with much ease with your partner when you have sex.
Scratching, biting and rubbing like you’re trying to start a fire are all very negative things to do when it comes to stimulating a woman’s vagina. A lot of women complain about their men getting too rough and reckless with their vagina and breasts. Be gentle! This is a must. When you first get to the area, lick very softly and gently. You may need to be a little bit firmer as you progress, but at least, when you’re starting, don’t go about it too rough and hard.
If she wants things harder (because some women likes it so) then you can do what she wants. But no woman wants it hard from the very beginning. She must warm up and get things going first before that rough handling stage.
